Why does the nice guy never win?

Have you ever noticed the attraction the bad boys?  The liars, players,  and cheaters seem to be the ones that we want, we actually crave them.  Can those that play be changed?  What makes them that way?  Were they once hurt so badly they refuse to commit again in fears of a irreparably broken heart.  Since my divorce I've fallen for a few, they are in fact a dime a dozen and can be found on any dating site.  I've fallen hard for them, listening to their lines as polished and shiny as a diamond, they are irresistible to refuse.   


We choose the Jake Ryan looks with the fast, cool car, instead of the cute quirky nerdy guy.
 

I've often wondered what life would be like if I took a chance with the one with a lopsided smile that didn't dress perfect, wasn't a gym rat,  and didn't look like he stepped out of the pages of GQ?  Is that the trick to find someone that piques your interest and then learn to love him?  Fall in love with the good, and overlook the bad?  That is loosely how arranged marriage works.  The couple has limited contact, learns to love, and work together as a couple, maybe there is some sort of reasoning to that?



I told myself that I wouldn't settle, that I would take my time this last and final go around but should my points all be steadfast rules?  Am I expecting George Clooney when he's already taken and to be honest his personality is unknown to me?  Its amazing how we judge a book by its cover without reading more than the first page.  Its a huge drawback to online dating.  We have seconds to swipe left or swipe right, quick, don't hesitate.....



Speaking of online dating, I dissect these guys profiles, I suspect I do in public as well:

Height over 5' 8"...... check
A decent body...... check
Works out..............Looks like it
No Affliction Gear.....Relief
Eats healthy...........fingers crossed
Hair washed, and it's brushed and cut recently..... check
Matching clothes socks and shoes...... check
Teeth......Check
A decent smile......check
Non Smoker/chewer.......check,check


Why is it that we allow the players to play while the nice guys strike out?  What makes us have that pull to the bad boy, instead of the boy next door?  Why the Mercedes instead of the truck? 


Hmmm, I wonder the last time he called his mom?
Wonder if he's Jewish?


I could go on but I won't you get the point.  Is striped shorts with a plaid shirt such a bad thing?