Communication is key

It's amazing what a make it or break it communication is in a relationship.  Sure trust and attraction is important but when it comes down to it, communication has to happen when things are bad, and good for that matter.  Respect is good communication.  It is speaking the truth, speaking kindly, and speaking boldly, as a relationship if strong and true can handle true. 

My last dating relationship was for the most part good.  Despite some minor differences we had super bad communication.  To be honest it was doomed from the start because of our lack of us.  So bad, that when he ended the relationship, it ended via a text that said something about not wanting to work on us anymore.  After 6 months I thought I would be deserving of a phone call or a visit.  It was a wake up call when I met a new friend that may turn out to be more(that fortune cookie may be correct).  He wears his heart in his sleeve, is not afraid to express his feelings and prefers to speak, instead of text(I'm working on that).  

Why is it socially acceptable to break up, divorce or even propose marriage via text?  When did we stop talking and instead turn to texting?   My marriage was not salvageable but lack of communication, truth and honesty doomed any chance of friendship or even acquaintanceship. Why do we not feel that our loved ones are deserving of clear concise communication-everywhere, for everything.  From the office to the in the bedroom, the kids to our bosses and coworkers, we owe it to ourselves and those in our lives whether we want them there or not.   

One of my goals is to make sure my boys turn into acceptable men.  Good communication, good manners, and respecting those around them. Talk out their problems, speak their feelings (when did this become taboo as a boy), and be a good citizen.  

In friendship relationships we must be able to speak our feelings, speak and respect our differences, and not lose the art of communication.  It is an endangered species that we must protect.